Religion in the Home

I believe in teaching religion to children. I believe religion provides many benefits in terms of structure, expectations, service, faith, strength of character, honesty, work, belief, values, love, self-worth, and a foundation for life.

I do not, of course, believe a child ought to be raised in the sort of religious household where beating, belittling, or deprivation are employed.

A love and a learning of God and creation needs to come from a place of love and understanding. God must be taught with a lesson of broadening one’s own understanding and of seeking for a personal testimony.

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If a parent feels the need to beat prayer into a child, that child is not going to learn to love prayer.

I currently raise my children as members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints (formerly nicknamed Mormons). I was raised in this church as well, and so was my husband. We have both gone through variations and broadenings of our faiths and knowledge. Yet, we have no desire to raise our children outside of religion.

My main reason? Besides the benefits I listed above, it is logic.

I know many people who, when they leave or drift away from organized religion, feel lied to. In their affront they resolve that their children will not grow up deluded as they were. They vow an open mind and freedom of choice for their offspring that they never had.

Which seems to be forgetting one thing: They, as adults, are at the position they are today because of the upbringing and religious foundation they received as children.

I fully expect my children to doubt religion as adults. They’re intelligent, curious, and stubborn. They feel they already know more than many authority figures. They will question and maybe even decide to leave their childhood faith.

Maybe, like others I know, they will still attend, but with a broadened perspective.

I can’t control that, but I can help to give them somewhere from which to leap. And so, I say to give a child a religious somewhere to start from. This doesn’t mean that I’m judging anyone for choosing a faithless family life; it does mean I do not choose that for mine.

As with any thing in parenting, I say to keep the conversation open. Encourage questions. Encourage them to work through the answers on their own. Ready or not, some day they will have to fly on their own.

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Sunday, April 7: “Moderate Momming,” a moderate post about moderation.

Monday, April 8: Wrote a poem titled, “Bedtime.”

Tuesday, April 9: Shared an inspirational quote by Sir Gilbert Parker.

Wednesday, April 10: Recommended buying ahead in my Dinner Tip.

Thursday, April 11: “Your Mama’s So Fed Up,” a snippet about an unfair joke bias.

Friday, April 12: Advised against birthing one’s children near each other in, “It’s Beginning to Look a Lot like Birthdays.”

Saturday, April 13: Shared Manic Mama‘s tweet about a son’s priorities.

Sunday, April 14: That’s today!

Photo Credits:
Aaron Burden
Alexander Watts


8 thoughts on “Religion in the Home

  1. Although I don’t agree with the doctrines of the LDS, I do give the church credit for encouraging good values. A lot of the elite runners that I follow are LDS and they all seem like very nice, hard-working moral people. I often wonder if people, like yourself, really know what the (original) Christian church doctrines are , as opposed to LDS. They are not the same, and yet I know that LDS consider themselves Christians. I find that confusing. I’m being sincere. I just don’t understand how anyone can believe what they teach, so it makes me think, maybe people don’t really know? For example, do you believe that people will become equal to God? Or that Adam and Eve purposefully sinned and caused the world world to fall into sin? That is not what the Christian Bible teaches. Really the only thing we have in common is certain terms like Jesus, God, etc. The truth of the Scriptures have been changed dramatically. Our Bible teaches that Jesus IS God, created the World by his Word, is equal to God, is part of the Trinity with the Holy Spirit, and he came in the flesh, born to the virgin Mary through God’s intervention with the Spirit, to save the world from the penalty of death due to Adam and Eve’s original sin. Man was separated from God at the point where they sinned. The ground was cursed. Adam and Eve were both punished. Only Jesus could bring reconciliation through his sinless life and death and resurrection. What does LDS teach about Jesus?

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    1. I know that you are being sincere; I do not feel insulted.
      I have not studied the many, many ways in which religions and peoples believe in God. Mostly I have my own upbringing, what I have pondered and prayed and studied about, and the conversations I’ve had with people through blogging.
      A main difference between the LDS faith and other popular Christian groups is that we believe God, Jesus Christ, and The Holy Ghost are three separate beings.
      We also believe everyone is a child of God. This makes Jesus our brother. It also makes Lucifer our brother, but you didn’t ask about that. 🙂
      We believe that everyone is working toward an eventual goal of becoming gods and godesses. Personally, I think things are a lot more complicated than that. I’ve ideas and impressions of a more communal sort of divinity and such.
      As to your query about Adam and Eve: we believe that Adam and Eve chose to ‘sin.’ This is because they were given two contradictory commandments. First, reproduce; second, don’t eat the fruit. Eve understood that and ate the fruit. She explained this to Adam, and Adam also didn’t want to be alone in the garden without Eve. Basically, Adam and Eve would be stuck in paradise forever, and we descendants would never be.
      What the LDS church teaches about Jesus is A LOT. 😀 Basically (if it can be basic), Jesus offered to live a perfect life and suffer and die willingly so that we could all be saved. His grace makes up the difference in our efforts; which effort, of course, we must make our best of. Yes, that sacrifice makes up for the sin of Adam and Eve; that sin being that they chose mortality and permanently cut us off spiritually from our Father.

      I hope what I said is clear. I find these discussions fascinating and appreciate that you asked.

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  2. I couldn’t agree more Chelsea. Parents have a right and a duty to raise their children in their own belief systems in a loving ,non-violent way. Their children will then decide at a later age if they wish to continue with this belief system or change. Any belief system that teaches love of neighbour, moral character, self respect and belief in something greater than ourselves is the correct one.

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    1. Thank you, Len. 🙂 Those sorts of life lessons help create community-beneficial members of society, which we all need for a good future.

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